It takes two to tango

It always comes down to the sad truth of the phrase "it takes two to tango". It's a terrible fact that no matter how determined or loyal you are someone that they can just walk away from you with all of your dreams stuffed into their backpack along with old coffee mints and dirty laundry. How do you find someone who understands the type of commitment it takes to make a relationship last for a lifetime? How do you find someone who would put his life on hold for the sake of being what you need? How do you know that someone will never leave you no matter how hard things are?

Over the last few months I've seen some of the people closest to me have their hearts torn out because they made a commitment to guys who only thought they knew what a relationship was about. One such person is someone i would say understands commitment and selflessness more than anyone else I know, but that wasn't enough for him. And another was living out her fairy tale with prince charming, until less than a year after being married he left her. She never saw it coming. Both of these girls are amazingly talented and unique and yet even they cannot seem to find someone who knows what it means to be wholeheartedly committed to someone.

So when I see these things happening I'm not only hurting for them... i'm scared for myself. How do i find that? Because I can only speak for myself when I say that when I make a commitment to love and cherish someone for the rest of my life I intend to do just that. But as a see all too often that sometimes isn't enough.

And I don't want anyone to think this is a "man hating" post... not at all. I know plenty of girls who are capable of this same thing. I just so happen to be referring to two guys who are too selfish and self centered to make a true commitment.

One think I can see from all of this is that God HAS TO BE the center of the relationship FOR BOTH PEOPLE. And i suppose this is what i'm looking for... because i don't know where else to start.

Here is a bit of a post made by someone who I consider to be completely selfless, generous, and gracious.

"...Valentines Day is just around the promising corner...and I'd like to say a lot of things.....but less is sometimes the best...so here they come :

Happy true-love... Happy life-long-loyalty... Happy faithfulness... Happy cherishing.. Happy respect.... Happy till-death-do-you-part.... Happy for-rich-or-for-poor... Happy sickness-or-health..... Happy come-hell-or-high-water.... Happy selflessness.... Happy giving-when-you-think-you-shouldn't-have-too....... Happy accepting-the-truth.... Happy coming-clean-up-front.... Happy humility.... Happy going-the-extra-mile... Happy admitting-your-pride.... Happy contentment-and- commitment.... Happy affectionateness... Happy passion-romance-and-excitement.... Happy purity and patience.... Happy growing-up-and-growing-old-together... Happy best-friends.... Happy never-giving-up.... Happy never-leaving... Happy teaching-each-other.... Happy not-living-for-yourself.... Happy denying-areas-of-denial..... Happy no-matter-what... Happy I-love-and-want-only-you....Happy........the end."